separation

Posted: 2/4/2025
There's perhaps only one thing worse than knowing your child is living rough after a relationship breakdown, and that's knowing they are living with a twit who is degrading her emotionally. 
Thankfully my daughter had good sense to weight up situation, and realise she was better away from it. Sadly, she has few living options than to camp in her horse float till something improves. Either she finds or buys into a home or decides to return to her family home while she gets her feet. 
My preference, as a parent, is to dive in and rescue, but she would be repulsed by that response, so I have to offer and say nothing. 

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