family history repeats

I've just read am acpumt of an "adve tire seeker", after having circumnavigated on an aeroplane: "we ended up with a gentleman's family, a girl & a boy .... It was rewarding simple, fun with the kids. My project at this time of my life was to complete, over four years, a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology".  

My story was similar but different; we had the " gentleman's family" if you like, & I found it rewarding, simple & fun but critically my then partner did not. She re-entered a period of clinical depression for which she was medicated. I studied her psychology & felt that she resented having children as it took away her availability as a sexual being, made her not the centre of family life & created extra work. You can never tell how a person is going to respond when the demands of parenthood arrive. She unfortunately never made the leap [& I am dismayed that she continues this day to refer to my 24 year old daughter as "Daddy's Princess". ] So rather than continue on growing as an adventurer I was nisy being a sole parent with burden of an unhelpful partner. Needless to say, it got worse; she became increasingly withdrawn only to move on to have her own sordid adventures outside the family home. I'm sure her version is quite different, but finding scapegoats to excuse their client's maladaptive behaviours are psychologists' stock I'm trade. 

While it may appear so, i am not bitter, because I enjoyed the focus of deploying as much joy & love into the children's lives & am comforted by having done my best for them as toddlers through to adulthood. Its not my intent to minimise PND. In this case I believe my ex-partner suffered a reactive depression to the burden of responsibility as a  parent & loss of sexual expression brought on by childbirth. Of course there were unresolved issues arising from her mother's parenting of her when she was an immature teenager.